Life coaching became my hobby about a year ago. I was avid for information. I was going through a very difficult time in my life and I thought learning about life coaching would help me get back on track.
Many people ask themselves; what is life coaching? Is it another name for therapy? Do you talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist?
Let me set the stage here…
A life coach’s primary focus is identifying what you wish to achieve in the present and (near)future. My responsibility as a coach is to help people identify manageable goals and establish tasks you can undertake to achieve these goals. Us coaches love to use a combination of enquiry, diagrams and exercises, to recognise potential problem areas and figure out ways to overcome them.
Some people find the visual and active elements of the coaching process very constructive.
If you are a highly motivated individual and the problems you face are practical, business or career related, then coaching can be very beneficial.
Unfortunately, coaching can be limited in its ability to help you intercept more deep rooted problems. Coaching training does not cover the impact of our past history and for that reason, some coaches try to encourage clients past a problem by using active strategies, which are not always effective, may I add.
You’re probably wondering, why is not effective? Coaching mostly becomes inefficacious when the individual does not fully understand the value of a problematic habit. Instead, you tend to keep on doing things in a certain way, even if you don’t want to.
Where coaching comes to naught, counselling and psychotherapy can go that extra mile in order to help you understand, and get through the more stubborn, ingrained problems.
The three stepping stones in my life coaching process:
In a nutshell…
- Clarify your goals:
This is phase one. Through a range of questions and exercises I help you identify and clarify your proposed goals. These can be anything, ranging from building confidence, to creating your own business, changing careers, improving a relationship, etc.
2. Take a step forward:
In the second coaching phase I help you break down your goals into easy achievable steps. We will work together in setting tasks and exercises that will enable you to complete the necessary steps to reach your goals. I particularly like this coaching phase because it helps you establish a track record of success to stand on as you make progress.
3. Overcome blocks to progress
That feeling of being stuck and unable to overcome is all too familiar. The inability to overcome blocks to progress is the reason why people seek out a life coach. Here are some tips to lasting success:
- For starters, know how to recognise your blocks. This means you’ll have to dig in and understand their root causes. As a coach I will teach you effective strategies to either remove them altogether or prevent them from getting in the way of what lies ahead. Coaches usually use a number of questions and techniques that can help identify blocks and adopt different strategies for dealing with them. Do keep in mind that coaches are generally not trained to help you fully understand and address the unshakable causes of problematic blocks. This could potentially mean that some issues can return in the future and you might feel powerless to deal with them successfully.
I want to help you become more successful in your life. I want to guide people to live their lives with more passion and less fear and anxiety.
So stay tuned for more articles on life coaching and leave your comments below…